Scripps Ranch and Bankers Hill Therapist Sara Cole.
By Sara Cole MFT
When you feel like stress is ruling your life, it’s time to step up your self care routine. Here are 7 ideas to keep in mind as you come up with a successful self care plan for yourself.
Living your best life starts with successful Self Care and that doesn’t mean taking an OCCASIONAL Bubble Bath. True self care takes commitment to you and the ability to stick with your plan.
And now for the secrets to success…
Self Care involves addressing 7 areas of your life for maximum benefits. Few realize that these areas exist and even fewer are addressing ALL of them.
*There’s no “one-size-fits-all” plan but it’s certain that to best care for yourself, these 7 domains need to be nurtured.
The seven Domains of Complete Self Care
1) Physical: This means being active, eating well and taking care of your physical health. It’s going to the doctor for a check up or when you don’t feel well.
2) Emotional: This is attending to your emotional or mental health. It means identifying, accepting and expressing a range of feelings, which is vital to your health. Try finding outlets for your feelings. This could be anything from drawing to landscaping or playing an instrument. Relaxation techniques are also very helpful. Try guided meditations, for example. **If you’re having a challenging time with this aspect of life, it may be time to see a therapist. for some support.
3) Spiritual: The idea that we are in “an ongoing search for meaning in life and what may extend beyond”. It’s exploring and expressing our beliefs and values. This also means understanding your place in the universe and connecting to something larger than yourself. Spirituality isn’t necessarily religion, but it can be for some people.
4) Intellectual: This is all about using your brain. This involves critical thinking, an interest in ideas & creativity. You can approach this type of self-care in many ways. You might focus on career development or your favorite hobby.
5) Social: This part of your life involves nurturing relationships with people outside of your immediate family. Friendships are critical to our quality of life. Friendships become especially important over time, because as we age, we face difficult challenges like sickness, divorce and the death of loved ones.
6) Relational: Is strengthening and maintaining relationships with significant others, kids, parents and other family members. Daily familial interaction is a key factor in promoting your overall health.
7) Safety and Security: Involves being proactive about ensuring personal safety, understanding your finances. Always remember that regardless of how busy you are, you deserve to feel safe, secure, happy and fulfilled.
For more information about self care or about Sara Cole MFT and how she may be able to help you, check out www.saracolemft.com. Mental Wellness is an important part of your overall health and happiness. Sara provides therapy in Scripps Ranch and Banker's Hill in San Diego
Ask a Therapist . . .
Did you ever wonder what your therapist was writing or how they know what to say or when they get a chance to eat? Do you wonder why anybody would want to sit and listen to other people's problems all day? Or maybe you wonder if a therapist could actually help you. Well here is your chance to ask whatever you like and I will try to answer. I cannot give you therapy in the form of an answer or solve your deepest darkest problems. This is meant to be fun and informative. So with that in mind, let the curiosity take over and ask away.
In the past people have asked me if I have a favorite client. I could give the teacher answer and say "all of my clients are my favorite clients". But in reality it is much more complicated than that. The reason I chat with people on the phone is that I want to make sure it feels like we are able to connect and that we don't trigger one another for any reason. I do actually really enjoy working with all of my clients and I want to assure you that if for some reason I met a potential client and they reminded me of an ex or were dealing with a situation I didn't feel like I could address in a neutral way, I would refer them to someone who I think would be a better fit. I have a client that I think has a great sense of humor and I have a client who I think is so incredibly strong and I have another client who I really enjoy their ability to tell a story. So none of them is my "favorite client" but they all have different characteristics that I can truly appreciate.
People often also ask me about what I am writing during session. I have been in the client seat before and wondered the same thing. I can assure you that if you were to look at my notes, they would make very little sense to you. My purpose in writing notes is to write down just enough that if I look a them latter I will remember the session, if I gave you homework or anything else I would need to know at some later date if I came back to them.
Okay, now it's your turn. What do you want to know?
If you would like to know more about Sara Cole MFT or therapy or anything else, visit www.saracolemft.com. Sara has offices in Bankers Hill and Scripps Ranch and is ready to help in any way she can.
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Sara Cole has been providing mental health services in San Diego for over 15 years. Sara specializes in working with women and teen girls to overcome trauma and major life changes, including postpartum depression, going away to college, marriage, etc. Sara also loves to help people get their anxiety under control. She is also passionate about providing treatment to those whose lives are affected by the addiction of a loved one.